What to Do When You  Feel Stressed

Take Time Out. When you're in a survival mode, everything seems extremely urgent. To feel better, acknowledge your feelings.  It's very important to honor your right to have them. Do whatever it takes to stay centered. Try to maintain a sense of self separate from your present circumstances. If unpaid bills, loneliness or continued problems still get you upset, shift focus. For a fresh perspective, get a good night's sleep. Instead of harping on doom, stay in the moment. Give yourself breathing space. Consider what matters to you. Establish a few manageable goals, then take small steps toward achieving them.

Review Recent Events. It's a perfect time to take stock. Look at where you put most of your energy. What are your chief priorities? Consider the changes you're trying to make. Be sure to congratulate yourself on even small accomplishments. How have you made a difference in the lives of others?  

Connect with Others. "All I can do is try to take care of myself," you may think. Yes, it's certainly more comfortable not to deal with all of this. But denying that problems exist won't accelerate their resolution. So, when life lacks meaning and you feel hopeless, instead of hibernating, reach out. Remember that you're not alone. What happens to one person eventually affects everyone. One voice is hollow. Together, we will be heard.

Help Someone Else.  Do what you can for an individual who seems to be in distress. Take him to lunch. Try to be empathetic. Listen without blaming or offering advice. Make a direct referral--give your friend's name to potential employers. Tell her about this project.

© 1996 and 2001 by Dr. Dorri Jacobs

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